Comments on: The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Giving http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 05:56:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jennifer http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Jennifer Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:54:52 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-607 Dear Dawn, I actually hadn't thought of it that way in terms of alcohol, but it makes sense. BTW, can you give me some right now? Just kidding!!! It is evening, though... ; ) This is when I sometimes struggle with it. Dear Dawn, I actually hadn’t thought of it that way in terms of alcohol, but it makes sense. BTW, can you give me some right now? Just kidding!!! It is evening, though… ; ) This is when I sometimes struggle with it.

]]> By: Dawn http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-601 Dawn Thu, 10 Dec 2009 16:40:05 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-601 the way i see it, i am doing my part by giving. what the recipient does with my gift is their responsibility. also, there were times in my life when i REALLY NEEDED alcohol. most alcoholics have been there. thankfully those days are over. the way i see it, i am doing my part by giving. what the recipient does with my gift is their responsibility. also, there were times in my life when i REALLY NEEDED alcohol. most alcoholics have been there. thankfully those days are over.

]]> By: Jennifer http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-582 Jennifer Wed, 09 Dec 2009 03:53:32 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-582 Dear Angie, I thought this might be something you had thought about. Thanks for the congratulations on the not-drinking. I'll be happier when I think about it less, though (as in, right now) ;) Dear Wade, Ha ha. I already knew that about you! It took me awhile to come around to that, but it was a relief. Dear GypsySoul, That is one of the interesting things I am learning from the book and exercise. I thought her gifts seemed kind of small on some days, but now I better understand that she integrates a more sustainable way of giving over the long term. (I think she gives everyday, now.) Dear Bob, Thanks for that information, because I see that could very easily surprise someone. Fortunately, I usually drink alone and then pass out on my sofa. Ha ha.(Oh, I mean I used too.) Dear Angie, I thought this might be something you had thought about. Thanks for the congratulations on the not-drinking. I’ll be happier when I think about it less, though (as in, right now) ;)

Dear Wade, Ha ha. I already knew that about you! It took me awhile to come around to that, but it was a relief.

Dear GypsySoul, That is one of the interesting things I am learning from the book and exercise. I thought her gifts seemed kind of small on some days, but now I better understand that she integrates a more sustainable way of giving over the long term. (I think she gives everyday, now.)

Dear Bob, Thanks for that information, because I see that could very easily surprise someone. Fortunately, I usually drink alone and then pass out on my sofa. Ha ha.(Oh, I mean I used too.)

]]> By: GypsySoul http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-581 GypsySoul Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:29:10 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-581 Oh yeah, and I forgot to mention the giving you do through your blog! Oh yeah, and I forgot to mention the giving you do through your blog!

]]> By: bob giddings http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-579 bob giddings Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:31:10 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-579 I hesitate to bring this up, because it requires a number of assumptions I have no business making. And yet a miscalculation about it could change everything. I thought about just emailing you, but there doesn't seem to be any way to do that. The fact is, to get to where you want to go, you have to cross an international border, and be admitted to Canada. Like everyone else, Canadian immigration is all computered up these days. I read not long ago of a couple who were denied admission because she had a DWI in the last 10 years, and another couple because of an assault charge resulting from a domestic dispute in New Jersey further back than that, that the guy claimed had been dismissed. These people had been back and forth across the border numerous times since, and were totally surprised by the sudden prohibition. Once you are in the computer, there is nothing to do but turn back. You can try groveling before bureaucrats, but that's always an iffy and unpleasant proposition. Though of course the bureaucrats enjoy it. It is what they live for. Your talk of AA meetings made me conjecture it was at least possible that something like that might be in your past. If so, there is a chance you will be turned away at the border. There is also a chance you will not. Depends on what the officer had for lunch that day. You are completely at his mercy. I only bring this up because you should know about it before you get there. Borders are chancy things these days. A little research might be in order. OTOH, it might be just as well simply to wing it. Certainly there are plenty of reasons to travel, and places to cruise with your RV, without going to the Canadian Arctic. And of course this may not even be a problem. If so, forgive me for theorizing out of season. Bob I hesitate to bring this up, because it requires a number of assumptions I have no business making. And yet a miscalculation about it could change everything. I thought about just emailing you, but there doesn’t seem to be any way to do that.

The fact is, to get to where you want to go, you have to cross an international border, and be admitted to Canada. Like everyone else, Canadian immigration is all computered up these days. I read not long ago of a couple who were denied admission because she had a DWI in the last 10 years, and another couple because of an assault charge resulting from a domestic dispute in New Jersey further back than that, that the guy claimed had been dismissed. These people had been back and forth across the border numerous times since, and were totally surprised by the sudden prohibition.

Once you are in the computer, there is nothing to do but turn back. You can try groveling before bureaucrats, but that’s always an iffy and unpleasant proposition. Though of course the bureaucrats enjoy it. It is what they live for.

Your talk of AA meetings made me conjecture it was at least possible that something like that might be in your past. If so, there is a chance you will be turned away at the border. There is also a chance you will not. Depends on what the officer had for lunch that day. You are completely at his mercy.

I only bring this up because you should know about it before you get there. Borders are chancy things these days. A little research might be in order. OTOH, it might be just as well simply to wing it.

Certainly there are plenty of reasons to travel, and places to cruise with your RV, without going to the Canadian Arctic.

And of course this may not even be a problem. If so, forgive me for theorizing out of season.

Bob

]]> By: GypsySoul http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-578 GypsySoul Tue, 08 Dec 2009 17:12:04 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-578 The most generous gifts may be non-monetary; a genuine smile and pleasant comment to a store clerk having a rough day, a sympathetic ear for a friend, sharing a meal with someone who's lonely, encouragement for someone who is discouraged. Kindess Rocks! The most generous gifts may be non-monetary; a genuine smile and pleasant comment to a store clerk having a rough day, a sympathetic ear for a friend, sharing a meal with someone who’s lonely, encouragement for someone who is discouraged. Kindess Rocks!

]]> By: Wade http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-577 Wade Tue, 08 Dec 2009 15:58:03 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-577 One of my fatal flaws is being generous. The other is finding good in any situation. I can't seem to shake either one of those. True generosity is helping anyone in need. Even if they don't deserve it. Sometimes those are far more rewarding as well. Weird huh? One of my fatal flaws is being generous. The other is finding good in any situation. I can’t seem to shake either one of those.

True generosity is helping anyone in need. Even if they don’t deserve it. Sometimes those are far more rewarding as well. Weird huh?

]]> By: Angie http://livinginmycar.com/blog/2009/12/08/the-lazy-girls-guide-to-giving/comment-page-1/#comment-573 Angie Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:08:13 +0000 http://livinginmycar.com/blog/?p=4471#comment-573 Yes write the book! :) I was always *very* leery on donating to any charity (or street beggar) for this very same reason. Where is this money really going? But then I came to the realization that I'm doing the good deed by simply donating (food, money, clothing, etc.) no matter where it goes in the end. I've done my part. So you aren't alone. We all wonder that same thought. So just as you said: "I just have to do one thing that is kind". That is all - and feel GOOD after you've done your part each time! :) **Big hugs** in celebration to your two weeks of no drinking! :) :) Yes write the book! :)

I was always *very* leery on donating to any charity (or street beggar) for this very same reason. Where is this money really going? But then I came to the realization that I’m doing the good deed by simply donating (food, money, clothing, etc.) no matter where it goes in the end. I’ve done my part. So you aren’t alone. We all wonder that same thought. So just as you said: “I just have to do one thing that is kind”. That is all – and feel GOOD after you’ve done your part each time! :)

**Big hugs** in celebration to your two weeks of no drinking! :) :)

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